Sometimes you have to know when enough is enough.
That looks differently to every person, for every situation.
For me, it meant leaving my job.
I’ve known from pretty early on that my job wouldn’t be a long-term place.
The head boss was very much so a Theory X manager.
He demanded all control.
He expected everyone to agree with everything he said.
He wanted you to shut up and take what he said..even when he was wrong.
He belittles people who disagree with him.
He has a raging temper.
He thinks he knows everything, and is above you.
He’s very vocal about his political beliefs.
He has major pride/ego issues.
He’s also rather sexist.
When I heard him screaming at people on the phone, that had no control over things he was upset about, I knew I didn’t want to work for him.
When I heard this man claim to be a believer, but act like a massive jerk all the time, I knew he wasn’t someone healthy.
As I listened to him talk down to my (no ex) co-workers, and dictate everything they did, I knew I had to get out of there soon.
I didn’t know that would be this week.
I had just started seriously looking for another job, when stuff went down.
Last week, I disagreed with my boss for the first time.
I was polite about it, but I knew he likely wouldn’t take it well.
When he blew up in front of all my co-workers and started belittling me, I knew we and I would never be on okay terms.
He didn’t exactly fire me, but he set it up in a way to make sure I would quit.
And I did.
I have zero regrets.
Job hunting sucks.
But you know what sucks more?
Being in a toxic environment.
Working there was not helping my healing.
Working there wasn’t really giving me much experience.
I learned almost nothing there.
I was given zero room to be creative.
When they asked me what I wanted to do long-term, they told me I would never make a living doing “that.”
Guess what? They’re wrong. Plenty of people do. Maybe I will be one of them. Maybe I won’t. It doesn’t matter. Their response sucked.
The pay was terrible. The treatment sucked.
There were multiple people who quit before I did (and I get why).
I was gaining basically nothing there.
Sometimes you have to quit.
You have to know when enough is enough.
You have to stand up for yourself.
Your mental health matters.
If you’re in a situation where you’re being disrespected, belittled, or it’s just toxic, leave.
You’ll be doing yourself a favor.
Your happiness matters.
Being respected is a big deal.
Not being treated differently because of your gender, religion, etc. should be expected.
If you aren’t growing, it’s not working.
If you dread going into whatever situation it may be for you, you don’t belong there.
Take a chance.
You’re going to find something that’s better.
You’ll find something that’s healthier.
Find something or someone who will value you and see your worth.
Demand respect. Demand fair treatment.
Your mental health matters.
Don’t let money, or whatever it is, determine staying in a bad situation.
Be bold. Stand up for yourself.
You deserve that.